Sober Yoga Girl

My "Dan-Iversary" - Words Have Weight with Dan Kumar

April 21, 2022 Alex McRobert Season 1 Episode 102
My "Dan-Iversary" - Words Have Weight with Dan Kumar
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Sober Yoga Girl
My "Dan-Iversary" - Words Have Weight with Dan Kumar
Apr 21, 2022 Season 1 Episode 102
Alex McRobert

Meet Dan Kumar! If you haven't yet heard his other two episodes with Alex, make sure you tune in. In short: Dan Kumar is the psychic who changed Alex's life. They met about a month after she got sober, and he predicted that she'd build a business called The Mindful Life Practice, quit her job, and run it full time. And the rest is history! In this episode Dan and Alex chat about the weight of words. Dan does one-on-one sessions through the MLPC which can be booked here: https://www.themindfullifepractice.com/intuitivehealingwithdan He also will be making a guest appearance this week for #SOBERGIRLSYOGA members only at our next group meeting. Become a member of #SGY for only $33 a month and meet him on Sunday April 24! The info is here: https://themindfullifepractice.com/sober-girls-yoga

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Meet Dan Kumar! If you haven't yet heard his other two episodes with Alex, make sure you tune in. In short: Dan Kumar is the psychic who changed Alex's life. They met about a month after she got sober, and he predicted that she'd build a business called The Mindful Life Practice, quit her job, and run it full time. And the rest is history! In this episode Dan and Alex chat about the weight of words. Dan does one-on-one sessions through the MLPC which can be booked here: https://www.themindfullifepractice.com/intuitivehealingwithdan He also will be making a guest appearance this week for #SOBERGIRLSYOGA members only at our next group meeting. Become a member of #SGY for only $33 a month and meet him on Sunday April 24! The info is here: https://themindfullifepractice.com/sober-girls-yoga

Want to Meditate More?
Join our FREE 21-day meditation challenge on our App!
https://themindfullifepractice.uscreen.io/zen/21-day-meditation-community-challenge

Want to Connect to Community?
Join our free Sober Girls Yoga Facebook group.
https://www.facebook.com/groups/sobergirlsyoga/

Want the latest Sober Girls Yoga Updates?
Join our Instagram Channel here. https://ig.me/j/AbZeHVh0bIfKBfi7/

Follow Alex on Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/alexmcrobs/

Check Out All Our Programs at:
https://www.themindfullifepractice.com/



Intro

Hi friend, this is Alex McRobs, founder of "The Mindful Life Practice" and you're listening to the "Sober Yoga Girl" podcast. I'm a Canadian who moved across the world at age 23 and I never went back. I got sober in 2019 and I realized that there was no one talking about sobriety in Dubai and Abu Dhabi, so I started doing it. I now live in Bali, Indonesia, and full-time run my community, "The Mindful Life Practice". I host online sober yoga challenges, yoga teacher trainings, and I work one on one with others, helping them break up with booze for good. In this podcast, I sit down with others in the sobriety and mental health space from all walks of life and hear their stories so that I can help you on your journey. You're not alone and a sober life can be fun and fulfilling. Let me show you how.

Alex

Hello, everyone. Welcome back to another episode of "Sober Yoga Girl". I am here today with one of my guests who has been on the show a couple of times already, but you guys all love him. Dan, my psychic. Dan and I met back about three-- I think it's like my three-year Dan-iversary. Oh my God, Dan-iversary. [inaudible] It's around my three-year Dan-iversary. So I met Dan about three years ago, right when I was getting sober. And I think I'm going to call this episode of that, my three-year Dan-iversary. Anyway, he really set me on the path to a lot of the steps I took and I mean, pretty much everything to be where I am now, which is really cool. So if you haven't listened to the earlier episodes where I had Dan on kind of telling my story, I'll put a link in so you can go back and hear a bit about my story and his journey. But Dan is an intuitive healer, a traveling psychic. He splits his time between Dubai and India and Canada, and he's here today to chat with us about words.


Dan

Hi, everyone. It's great to be back, Alex. I mean, I think that before we even start chatting or before we even get into the podcast, it's always great to speak to Alex because through the podcast we always have a little chat with each other and there's always a new perspective for Alex. And even today, the same thing happened. Her perspective changed in minutes.


Alex

Yes.


Dan

As we're talking about words today and we're talking about how words impact us and how words actually create a narrative that we kind of draw ourselves towards without us wanting to, maybe be on that narrative, but we end up doing that. I keep talking about, you know, watch the words that you say because they kind of lay down a path for you. So, I mean, Me and Alex really didn't have a conversation about what the chat was going to be like today, but we did speak about a post that I had put up a couple of weeks ago or about a month ago where I had put up a picture of myself and I said something about, you know, feeling highly emotional and from me stating me being highly emotional with a beautiful photograph, by the way. I got a lot of messages from family members and friends saying that, you know, we're here for you. If you need to speak, if you need anything, you know, we love you, we care for you. And with all my heart, I was so happy to see that. But then I was also thinking, why did the word emotional trigger everybody to reach out to me? Because I wasn't talking about emotional from a bad point of view. I was just saying that I'm emotional, but emotional maybe in a good way. There are a lot of things that happened that week, that were very emotional for me, but emotional in a good way. They brought out these different emotions that I haven't had before. And it felt good to be churning in these emotions. So basically what happened was, it was the death anniversary of my grandmother, my maternal grandmother, and she's died for a few years. But my cousin had posted something on a story, on one of the social media sites. And I was at home and I was like, wow, I didn't realize. And I had a picture of her. So I picked up the picture, and it was also a very spiritual day or religious day for my religious belief [inaudible] on that day. And I just looked at her picture, and I think I started grieving and I haven't grieved her in so many years. I haven't grieved her even when she-- but I started grieving her. And then I smiled and I turned a picture around for some reason. And on the back of that picture was a prayer. And that prayer was significant to the--you know, significance of that day. It was a prayer for that same deity or the same God. And I was like, wow, that's shocking because I didn't even realize that it was there. That happened and then a few days after that, I have-- a part of a mentorship program for a private members club here in India. And I was working with the mentees, and there's something about them that really touched me, and it got me emotional, but it also made me proactive, that I needed to do a lot more for them. And I wanted to do things that were outside of their own space of getting it done. And that proactiveness made me speak to a lot of people and talk to a lot of people. And, you know, I had to regurgitate these stories of these kids. But it made me feel very emotional because I felt happy that I was trying to help them. But the emotions that I was getting were an emotion of sadness, an emotion of happiness, and an emotion of calmness also. I mean, there are all these emotions at the same time. Obviously, that means emotional, right? Feeling so many emotions that one time you're getting emotional. And then on the 7th of every month, I kind of post a picture of myself as gratitude to myself, as love to myself, and as vanity to myself, because I always felt that I wasn't-- while I was growing up, I never felt that I was attractive. And so I was like, this has to be found. Then I put down these words, and it was framed in a beautiful way. And I just let the world see it. But everybody getting back to me and giving me the love and the support. It was beautiful. It was amazing that everybody wanted to do that, but it made me also think that why did this word conjure up such a big stir in everybody for them to fear the worst? Because it wasn't the worst. So when I was speaking to Alex, I said you know, words kind of really dictate how we position ourselves or how we kind of move forward in life. I think in one of the podcasts that Alex and I had done, we spoke about this briefly, and, you know, we're saying that why are certain words like death so heavy? And why they don't--you know,  if we use the same word instead of saying death and said bubble gum, it changes the ideology of the whole thing, right? We try to change the way we feel about something. When we say bubble gum instead of death. So, you know, my grandmother passed away a few years ago. Instead of saying death, I said, you know, I used to call her nanny. So nanny basically bubble gummed her way out. So now I've made this into this more humorous way of looking at it. That was a sad moment. But again, I've changed that ideology of that word being so heavy, you know. And we have many words like being, you know, selfish. Selfish is the word that everybody says is a bad thing. You shouldn't be selfish. You know, you should only-- not only think about yourself. You should think about everything. But in hindsight, it's good to be selfish. It's good to spend time with yourself and give yourself love, give yourself compassion and kindness and give yourself rewards and give yourself treats and give yourself trips and give yourself happiness. That's a part of being selfish. Or if we change the word to being self full, then we're self full. But then, selfish just makes it seem like it's such a bad thing, right?


Alex

Yeah.


Dan

Do you agree, Alex?


Alex

I love that, self full. I want to take that.


Dan

You take it or run with it.


Alex

Self full instead of selfish. It's so great because we think that when we're being selfish, it's like we're only thinking about ourselves. But the reality is that we can't take care of others. We can't provide for others unless we're providing for ourselves. And I think that's like a huge thing that people have missed or definitely wasn't modeled for me in my childhood was like prioritizing our self. Self full.


Dan

Yeah. You've got to change, you know, the vocabulary we put out there. I've spoken about this a few times already, but the dialogue, the internal dialogue we have with ourselves, we've got to be a little bit more conscientious about what we're saying to ourselves also and the words we're saying to ourselves and how we're, you know, making a path forward. You know, are we putting down the right words for what has to happen next? Are we living in the moment or are we just assuming and presuming about the future? Are we thinking about things that really don't matter in the now? But if they don't matter in the now, what does matter? What does matter is that I'm kind to myself. What matters is that when I speak about myself to myself, I hold myself in the greatest regard. Does that make sense? That I hold my work in the greatest regard? I can be critical, I can analyze it, but I need to be able to hold my own words. And the way I project myself internally in a way that vibrates so beautifully inside of me that also vibrates out and creates this beautiful vibration of abundance around me or happiness about me. Yes, we can't be happy and go lucky and be skipping down a trail every day, but we could be kinder to ourselves and not use words that put ourselves down. Like, you know, I look at myself in the mirror and I said, oh, my God, I've got a line here. Oh, God, I've gotten, you know, a gray hair. I'm looking so old. I'm looking so-- so now, instead of saying, I'm looking so old, I look at my gray hair and I said, okay, wow, aren't I ripening really well? So, now, changed the dialogue from, like, I'm getting really old to aren't I ripening myself really well? So now it's, you know, you're articulating yourself differently to yourself. Yeah? And that we're using words and we're thinking about the words I used for myself. And I don't allow anything to snowball into a bigger issue or a bigger problem, you know. When we're talking to our families and, you know, you're under the weather. You know, I'm sick. I've got a cold. I've got this. I've got-- I'm not feeling well. You know, they're concerned. They'll send you a cup of-- well, I was going to say a cup of tea, but they're probably going to send you some soup, or they're going to send you whatever you need. Maybe they're going to send you lots of gifts, or they'll send you something. They'll send you some food, or they'll send you medicine. They'll do something. But then also when we talk about being sick, how are we talking about being sick? Are we saying that we're in pain or sad? So we articulate ourselves. Instead of saying sick, I'll speak to my mom and say, hey, mom, I have a little Flu, a little congested. It's going to get over. I'm good. But that word sick becomes even bigger, right? Does that make sense?


Alex

It's like a self-fulfilling prophecy. I've been thinking a lot about, you know, so, I did my Instagram post and Instagram story the other day about having bipolar. And I've been thinking a lot about how--you know, when I started experiencing moods and I started identifying it as bipolar, I think it started to become a self-fulfilling prophecy where I was like, this is what it is, and it's always going to be like this. And every low got way lower and every high got way higher. And now I think the self-fulfilling prophecy is saying, like, you know, I have recovered from it, and I do have emotional struggles from time to time, but the words that I use to describe how I'm doing, dictate the whole experience.


Dan

Yes.


Alex

And I think there are a lot of things like that. Like the words that we use, the words that we-- it's something that comes up a lot in my work around mental health and sobriety, you know. Because even, like, the very word you choose over, whether you're sober, whether you're alcohol-free, whether you're dry, like, that has a certain weight and certain connotations around it that can shape people's opinions of what they think you are.


Dan

Correct. And you're using a word like being bipolar. Yeah, you could be diagnosed with it. You could have gone to a psychiatrist and gotten this or neurologist or whoever to get it done. But am I force-fitting a problem within my life? Am I kind of molding a problem into my life and saying, hey, because I have high emotions and low emotions, that means I'm bipolar? Is that the meaning of it? Is that where I came to that conclusion? I could also be diagnosed with it. I could be diagnosed with it and somebody would say, yeah, you're bipolar. And then I also pre-empt those types of scenarios for myself or pre-empt those kinds of symptoms for myself because somebody's told me that. So now, again, I'm kind of driving my destiny towards that direction. So then everything has to do with that. There are some things that I don't speak about with you, Alex, and most people don't know this, but I'm dyslexic. I'm highly dyslexic, and I've been dyslexic since I was a kid. But you wouldn't realize that. I also had a little problem with self-esteem and stuttering at some point, but nobody would really understand that because they didn't focus on that. Do I use dyslexia as a challenge? No, I wear dyslexia on my sleeve like it's part of my superpowers. I said, you know, I have it. It's a part of me, but it's not a negative part of me. Yeah? Alex has mood swings. She has super highs and super lows, and she had these medium swings also. But those mood swings that Alex has are the mood swings because of a mental health issue? Are the mood swings because she didn't do the yoga the way she should have done the yoga? Is it because she's analyzing so much? Is it that she's sitting in her thoughts so much that she's gotten herself down to a lower level? Did she have her lunch that day? Did she have her breakfast? Maybe she didn't do what she needed to do. Maybe the consistency in her life wasn't there. And because she didn't stay consistent with what she needed to do for herself, her mood went low. So now, does that mean Alex is bipolar, or does that mean Alex is not consistent? It means Alex isn't consistent.


Alex

And the truth could be-- both truths could be valid, you know.


Dan

Both truths could be valid. I agree with you. Both truths could be valid. You could actually have an emotional, mental disruption that brings you all the way down. But now when it brings me all of the way down, logically or illogically, what did I do to make myself feel better? Did I come out of it? And what did I do to do those things to come back out of that? So the problem isn't being bipolar or having a mental health issue. The issue is being consistent to recover, to feel better.


Alex

100%. And I think about this all the time because-- or not all the time. But I had this conversation with one of my groups yesterday. We were talking about like, what you have in your tool kit to make you feel better. And for me, I used to just get into these spirals of, like, you know, one thing would go wrong and I'm like, it's over, it's over, it's over. My business sucks. I'm a failure and just be there. And actually what I do usually, now when I'm feeling low is I reach out to you and that is my-- it's like you're more my pep talk person than anything, you know. And, like, you being able to phrase something for me, it really is. It comes back to our theme of using different words to reframe a situation to make me feel a different way about it. Like saying that, you know, it's going to be a lot better by next week and then I'm not in this like, it's over, it's over, it's over. I'm like, it's going to be better by next week, you know. And then it changes my whole perspective on things.


Dan

Well, I want everybody to understand that Alex isn't using me as a crutch. Alex actually uses me as SOS whenever she needs it. But when I deal with Alex, I actually don't tell her what to do. I just bring her a new perspective and then she actually changes her mind.


Alex

Yeah.


Dan

So I ask her certain questions and I bring about certain thoughts. So it kind of makes her think a different way and that she's like, actually, yes, that's there. I've done that. You know what? Yeah. I was feeling better when I did that. So I keep on reminding Alex, or I kind of make Alex accountable for what's happening around her and then re-- looking at it from a different perspective. So she gets a different insight within herself. Not because I've told her the new insight, but because I want her to incite a new ideology or a new way of thinking of a problem. So now the problem isn't a problem because I've done a solution. Yeah? I found my own solution within myself. I've just gotten my healer who kind of just poked me in the right direction.


Alex

Right.


Dan

Without giving you all the information, I just poked you in the right direction, correct?


Alex

Yeah.


Dan

And that little push towards the right direction makes everything feel better. And it's easy. I mean, even if Alex asked me, you know, Dan, I'm feeling really bad and I'm not good. And just by me saying, don't worry, next week things are going to be better. She is already relaxes. So you can get that with anybody. Mums are really good with this. A lot of mums say this too, right? Whenever, you know, we've not won an award or we didn't do so well in a spelling bee or I'm really old. Spelling bee? What am I doing? Okay.


Alex

You're not old. You're right.


Dan

I'm right. Yes. I must take my word. I'm right. But my mother probably would have, you know, she would say, hey, this is just one spelling bee. There's always another. We always do better. We do the best we can. So those words of wisdom stick with us. That's also a mother or a father even. You know, it could be a father also, or grandparents or an uncle or aunt, anybody. But these words of wisdom are there to just make us know that we're worthy of making better happen in our life. Yeah? So I hope that resonates. But again, words. So, yeah, just like Alex just corrected me from old to right. And some people might say, well, I don't know about right either, Dan. I think right might be a little too fruity. And maybe we could come up with a better word. But you think about what is the better word for you. Does that make sense? If you feel that this is a better word for myself or this is a better word that makes me feel a little bit more comfortable then I use that word because it makes it feel better, not because it's positive or negative, but I feel better. Yeah? So let's look at words differently from now on and change our perspective. And that doesn't mean that I sit there and every time I speak, I think about seven different words [inaudible] the source or to understand what I need to say. No. I'd look at it and say, you know, am I impacting myself in the wrong way? And it takes 30 seconds to just rethink it and say, hey, you know what? Actually, this is what it is. And this is not wishful thinking. This isn't you kind of psyching your own self out to be better about yourself. No, this is you being accountable and saying, I need to start programming myself differently with the words I use, with the stories I see, and with the books I read. How are these things programming me? How's the news programming me? How's social media programming me? How are my friends programming me, you know? Is there a program happening? I think everybody without knowing that they do do this. So I know I have-- I'll give you an example in my life. I was with a very close friend of mine a few weeks ago, and I was speaking about something that was happening with another friend, and he just said, does that matter? In the scale of life does this really matter? And then I said, well, in the scale of life, it doesn't make a difference at all. And he's like, why are we putting energy into it, then? He's not a healer. He's my best friend. But those are his words of wisdom. And I said, wow. You know what? You're right. I need to ask myself that from now on, whenever I get into this kind of thought process, does it matter? So then, now, I'm checking myself on certain things, certain ways of looking at life, in certain ways that I'm dealing with situations in life. Because everything that we go through right now, everything that we feel right now is supposed to happen, be it good or bad, and because it's happening to us, how do we now take care of it? Be it a bad situation, be it a good situation, but how do I take care of it? Do I proactively do this or do I passively do it? You know, speaking to a client earlier today, and, you know, she was having little issues with a family member and I said, well, what is the issue? And she was looking at security for herself. I said, well, why not just get it done now? Why are we waiting for five years down the line or ten years down the line? If you feel like you need to be secure, be secure now. Why do wait? Why pre-empt it? And she's speaking to me because she wants to know about the future. And I said the future doesn't matter here. What matters is you need to feel secure. So let's do what you need to do now to feel secure. Change your perspective. And she said, yeah, actually, I'm going to do that. I'm going to make sure I take charge of the situation instead of making it a problem. Her family member was not understanding what her emotional need was. And my point to her is, do you need the family member to do that? Do you need them to understand your emotional needs? She goes, yeah, because, you know, I have an expectation of what the future needs to be. And I said that's the problem. Don't have the expectation of the future. And that need to make that person understand goes out of the way, goes out of the bubble altogether. She goes, actually, yeah, if I don't think about the future and the expectation of the future, yeah. Why would I need to worry about what they need to do right now? And I said, cool. And let's not do that. So back towards, Alex. Well, let's use you as an example or a guinea pig right now.


Alex

Yeah.


Dan

Yeah?


Alex

Okay.


Dan

Okay. Alex has a big project that she's working on right now, a couple of big projects. The projects haven't come out yet, but Alex already thinks that she's not good enough. She already thinks it sucks. I was like, but who told you it sucks? Alex has already decided or pre-empted things by saying it sucks. And I was like, who told you it sucked? So nobody told me it sucks. I'm just telling you that it sucks. And I said, but what's making you feel that way? I mean, she's gotten a lot of doors closed. And I was like, yeah, but as many doors close, we just need one door to open up. And once that one door opens up, that's all that matters. But we don't focus on the door shutting and, you know, we focus on what we have to do now. You shut that door. That's okay. I can get another door open. I will get many doors open. I'll get enough doors open till I'm satisfied, but I'm not going to open up one door and say--or knock on one door and wait for that door to open and then don't knock on 20 other doors. It's like going trick or treating. When you go trick or treating, you ring the doorbell and they don't have candy at this, you go to the next door and you get the candy from the next door. But if you see the person come to the door and start giving out candy, you come back to that door and go to that door again and ask for the candy. Isn't that correct? That's correct. Right, Alex? It's not like you're going to be like, oh, well, they didn't open it up for me, so I'm not going to go back and ring the doorbell again. You're going to be like, no, I want that chocolate. I'm going there, I'm going to get the chips, I'm going to get the bubble gum. Correct. Right? Is that the correct situation? Okay, so if that's the correct situation when it comes to-- when we want something or need something to happen, why don't we do the same thing? When it comes to your work and stuff like that? But maybe not when it comes to personal. You know, I see somebody that I like and I keep on harassing them. Well, maybe that's not the thing to do because once a person tells you no, that means no. If they don't like you, they don't like you, you move on. You go to the next. You go to the next. Until somebody says, yes, I do like you. Right?


Alex

But yeah, and I see it a lot. Exactly what you're describing. And after being in the yoga world for so long and people come out of yoga teacher training. This is a great example. People come out of yoga teacher training and it takes a really long time to build momentum as a new yoga teacher, and you're going to have classes when people don't show up. I had a season in my life in Abu Dhabi where it was like probably a six-month period where zero or one person would come to my class and I would still go every single time because this is what I do. Like, this is what I do. Even if I was making no money, yoga is what I do. And I think there are so many new teachers who come out of yoga teacher training and don't realize how much resilience that's going to take. It is like a little rejection, you know, and you have to keep going. It's kind of like the same thing.


Dan

But Alex, that class mattered. That one person mattered. And you're like, because of that one person, I'm going to do what I need to do for that one person. It doesn't make a difference if it's no people or one person or five people, regardless of what it was, you took it and said, hey, I'm going to do this the best way I need to do it. And the thing is, everything grows. Everything has to grow. A lot of us are lucky that it grows from day one, but sometimes it takes a couple of steps before it can grow. It takes a couple of watering before it can grow. Some fertilizer, some love, some sunlight, and then it could grow. You know, I guess we're going to have a gardening show, too, soon. I think this is with everything, actually. If everybody kind of uses this philosophy of saying, hey, it's okay to allow things to happen when they need to happen. But I also have to be proactive enough to be consistently doing it every day to get to where I need to get to, to move to wherever I need to move to, and go wherever I have to go. Like, Alex did whatever it needed to happen for her to get herself into Indonesia, in Bali. And she did it. And she did it on her terms. She didn't do it on anybody else's terms. There are a lot of hurdles and bumps on the way, be it where do I store my furniture or what do I do with my cat? There are a lot of different things that were little hurdles that had to happen. But now she's happy. She's in a thriving area in her life. Things are just transforming and manifesting and happening the way they need to. But she also needs to go through the action steps to make things happen. I mean, it would be wonderful if she just opens up her eyes and everything's just in front of her the way she really needs it. But if she does open her eyes correctly, she can see that everything is in front of her the way she needs it. So, I think that more than anything else, I think I'm an accountability coach most times for you, Alex, and I give you-- my lessons are more about you being aware of what's around you and your surroundings to work those areas a little stronger to make things happen. And again, back to words, when we're talking to ourselves or we're talking to others, also, that we need to think about the words we put out there and how we program somebody. I remember a few years ago on my birthday, I'm so self-obsessed. I put up a picture of myself on my birthday and I'm happy. Self-obsessed is good, actually. It's a good word for me. I'm happy with it. I put up a picture and somebody--I said something, and then this person says, yeah, and something about being vain. Saying, me, being vain. And I looked at it and I said, actually, vanity is not a bad word to me. Vanity is a good word. I'm happy to be vain. I'm proud to be vain. It's fine.


Alex

Yeah.


Dan

If I told you my trauma that I had while I was growing up and how I didn't think about looking at myself the way others looked at me and I didn't think of myself as being attractive, then vanity is an amazing superpower I have right now because it demolished all that trauma that I had while I was growing up. So I am vain. I'm going to make a T-shirt, in white, with black writing, saying I'm vain. The next time we have a podcast, I'm going to be wearing that T-shirt. But I don't look at it as a bad word. I look at it as--well, I mean, there's a reason why we have the word, and it's okay. Vanity is part of our lives. You know, we have celebrities who live off of vanity, right? Because they're taking pictures, selfies, and everybody is consuming them on different apps and social media. It's fine. The word is not that bad. It's a good word. So I utilize it, but I utilize it on my terms. I listen to that word and make it part of me the way I want it, not the way the other person defines it. Just like we started. When it comes to emotions, I define it as a beautiful word or emotional. I don't define it as something that creates a lot of trauma in my life. So you define your word, but make sure those words you use are going to be words that uplift you and keep you in your spirit and keep you in kindness and keep you in love and keep you in happiness. And even if you're sad and you're fearful and you're upset, let me use the words that articulate what I'm going through right now, but also heal me at the same time and not destroy me. Correct?


Alex

Correct. I love that. I have a question for you.


Dan

Yeah.


Alex

What are your general predictions for, like, the world in the next little period of time?


Dan

Well, I'm going to say this with a lot of love and a lot of compassion. Please wear a mask.


Alex

Wear a mask.


Dan

Just please wear a mask. I think that if we're in group settings and you're not eating and you're very close to a lot of people, to say wear a mask, because we don't know where that person has been, what the person has done, and it's not about them being diseased or anything. We don't know what particles are going with that. So, I remember when I used to travel maybe five, or six years ago that people would be wearing masks. And I'd be like, why are they wearing masks? But I understand that there are a lot of communities and a lot of religions out who wear masks because they don't want to harm the organism. What are they called?


Alex

Organisms.


Dan

Yes, in the air. So they wear masks, so they're not breathing them in. So they're protecting them and not protecting themselves, but they're protecting them. So I would probably tell everybody, mask up for the next few months. I know that it seems like we've kind of gotten out of the worst of the situation, but I feel that we need to always be resilient from now on. We need to be precautions and we have to think about not only ourselves but for everybody else. And, yeah, mask up. I think it's a very important thing for all of us to keep on doing it, even if we've been told that it's okay not to wear a mask. I still think it's important to wear a mask, especially while we're on public transportation, while we're in supermarkets, and while we're at movie theaters. I just think it might be a good idea to have it on when you're in a personal space or private space. Not at all. I mean, it's fine. But my predictions for the next few months are it's abundant. There are a lot of things that can happen right now. There's a lot of newness in the world right now. There are a lot of new adventures. There's a new love language that's going to start happening, a love language that you not only speak to yourself, but to others and also to loved ones. So I feel like there's a bunch of newness and I really feel like it's the year of love and the year of kindness. I said this earlier to Alex, as they said you know, your kindness, and we need to be kind to ourselves and to everyone else. But I also feel like there's a lot of love out there. There's a lot of love, and we all need to do our part in this love language where we not only are doing love to ourselves, but we give love to everybody else. Like when we greet somebody, do we greet them with love, and do our eyes just glimmer with happiness when we see that person? Do we express ourselves in our true sense of expression? Are we telling things transparently to people? Are we honest? So I kind of feel like there's a-- I think a lot of people have decided to change the way that they deal with everything and that life has taken a new meaning of rejoice and also be accountable for not only your own actions but everybody else's actions. There's a lot going on in the world. I really wish we can all just have this collective consciousness of peace and just send it out to the countries that need the peace and the people that are there and also maybe the leaders giving them some peace too, to say, hey, maybe you don't have to do it this way and we can find another perspective? Another way of looking at things to give the organizations in the world that can actually make a difference in the world. Some sort of energy to say, hey, let's step in now and not after the trauma, or the devastation, or the triggering is done. Let's step in from day one. Let's not step in on day 1000, 2000, 5000, let's step in on day one. So my prediction for the rest of this year is abundant. I do feel that from a precaution point of view, everybody must do their part, and emotionally, mentally, physically, and financially there's a lot of growth that's happening within these next few months. Within, I'd say, June to November, you'll see a lot of growth in these areas of your life and it's going to be brilliant. It's going to be beautiful. But love is in the air, yeah? And that doesn't necessarily only mean that to find-- somebody coming into your life for love and stuff like that. But there's a lot of love that's going to happen and you're going to feel so in love. The little things are going to matter more than the bigger things. Yeah? Life's going to give you newness. You just have to be able to accept it. Yeah?


Alex

Love that. Love it. What a great note, Dan.


Dan

That's going to be a new product that Alex is going to come up with, with this in the, you know, fall of 2022. I love it. Love it. T-shirts, jackets, and caps are available on The Mindful Life Practice website and on The Sober Girl, on the site, coming this fall season.


Alex

Love it.


Dan

Well, it's great, Alex. I hope this conversation we had today helps as many people as I can and I know that all of our journeys just need a little change of perspective, a little change of words, and a little change of emotions. So if we can change, then we can open up so much newness within our life. Yeah?


Alex

Love it. Thank you so much, Dan. Thank you for being on the show.


Dan

Thank you.


Alex

To celebrate my Dan-iversary and if anyone is listening to this episode and you are interested in learning more about what Dan does, he can do one-on-one sessions which can be booked through The Mindful Life Practice. So I'll pop the link in the episode bio. I think like 90% in The Mindful Life Practice people have had a session with Dan. He's a popular guy, so yeah, definitely check it out and we should do an event soon. We did a couple of retreats together in the fall and then back when I was in Dubai. We should get one going. Think that would be cool?


Dan

Yeah, let's go. I'm open to it, but I want you all to just live in your bliss. Understand your bliss. Follow your bliss.


Alex

I'm not going to say, love it.


Dan

All right. Well, lots of love to you, Alex, and lots of love to everybody else and God bless.


Alex

Thank you, Dan. I'll see you soon.


Dan

Yes. Bye.


Alex

Bye.


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